Weight, like credit card debt I have found, is extremely difficult to lose once acquired. It takes determination, willpower, focus and patience.
My weight is moving downward. I have recovered from The Virus and I am forging new habits. Someone once told me that the first 2 weeks of any dietary change involving caloric restriction are the hardest weeks. I would say that's about right but I had a head start because for the first week of my attempt to reduce caloric intake, I couldn't eat anyway. Result. We'll see where this leads.
As for Xmas, this has been the cheapest Xmas I've ever experienced. I have spent hardly any money at all. We are partaking in Secret Santa and buying only for the youngest members of the family, as you do. I set a budget of $100 and stayed within that budget.
I'm using my faithful plastic Xmas tree (which isn't even up yet) and I only sent cards to a handful of people. I am cooking a light dinner a couple of days before The Day in order to free up everyone to do what they like on Sunday and our Sunday dinner will involve about 4 people max and we'll have chicken. I just don't want to do another big dinner, truth be told. The prep and clean up are massive and Thanksgiving Day is enough for me.
I am setting healthy boundaries for myself and I am apologizing to no one. If I don't want to do something, I won't. If my gut feeling tells me that something ~ anything ~ is a bad idea, I'm running for the hills. I don't care who is offended or who cannot/will not understand my position. Moving forward, my hope is that I can listen to my gut more and have the self confidence to go with what it's telling me. Many times this past year, for example, I have found myself at social gatherings that my gut told me were a mistake and which indeed did turn out to be events that I wish I'd avoided altogether. 2017 will be my year to start saying NO to anything I think is a bad idea.
And that includes any notion of a return visit to England. Ain't gonna happen.